What we tell ourselves and what we do with those invisible scripts determines our success in life is the main driving point of this book. The author pushes hard on the idea that we control our destiny and attract either good or bad fortune depending on the energies we “vibrate”.
Who should read this?
People who want to overcome the mental barriers that hold them back
Anyone who wants to be inspired and “go do it”
People who want to learn how to stop living the life they want and do the things they love
You Are A Badass Main Ideas
Summary of You Are A Badass
We should all stop living for others and choose ourselves first. Out of fear of being dubbed as selfish, we tend to let others and the world dictate how we live our lives. We act and do things based on what others expect us to do or what they think we’re supposed to do. While that is great for the society on a high-level view, the individual is stripped of the very thing that makes them unique—their traits, personal goals, and ambitions.
Negative beliefs are invisible scripts that “decide” how we think and act. “The Big Snooze” is the term the author used to refer to these negative scripts that seem to put us in a zombie-like mode that makes it hard for us to think and act on our own.
An example of this is if you want to become (insert your dream job here) but your family or friends think that it’s not a good fit for you or think that you’re not “meant” for it. When you tell them that’s what you want, they’ll tell you all sorts of things to justify their own opinions. Perhaps they’ll say stuff like: “We’re a family of academics, that line of work is not for us”. “It’s too dangerous to fly as a living”. “Why do you want to become a pilot? You’re already on track to become (insert whatever job they think is fit for you)”.
Most people will simply go with the flow and let the “Big Snooze” decide their fates. Why? Because it’s easier. Because it won’t hurt anyone’s feelings (except your own, of course). Because that’s what everyone is doing so why break the pattern, right? Wrong. If you let others and these limiting beliefs decide for you, you’re on a sure path to a mediocre life. You won’t get contentment and feel true happiness simply because you’re not living based on what you actually want to be and have in life.
We should make each moment count and use it towards hitting our life’s goals. We shouldn't let the opinions of others sway us away from what we believe will give us true happiness. Setbacks are normal, we should strive to do everything in our power to overcome them. As we inch towards our goals, we’ll feel the satisfaction that only the very act of doing what you love brings.
Lessons, Notes, & Personal Takeaways
- Discover the person you truly want to be and focus every waking hour of your life towards becoming that person. Break free from limiting beliefs, if you want to succeed in your chosen path, you have to believe that it can be done.
- Our mission is to realize our goals and dreams then spend our days working on achieving those goals. Regardless of what other people and even close friends and family will say, stick to your gut. Only you really knows what it is you want in life. Never give in and follow the herd simply because that’s the path of least resistance. You may become a “good” son/daughter/friend/father/mother/ in the eyes of the world, but ultimately you’re lying to yourself and will never be truly satisfied.
- You attract what you project to the world. If you’re a negative person, expect to receive more negativity. If you have a positive outlook in life, you’ll seem to receive more blessings simply because that’s what your energy is focused on seeing/feeling more. This is because the law of attraction tells us that we “vibrate’ our energies to the world and that this energy seeks out the same wave form.
- We should love ourselves for who we truly are without shame or guilt. Only when we realize our worth and importance will we be truly free and able to lead happier lives.
My Favorite Quotes from You Are A Badass
“You are perfect. To think anything less is as pointless as a river thinking that it’s got too many curves or that it moves too slowly or that its rapids are too rapid.
“Because if you base your self-worth on what everyone else thinks of you, you hand all your power over to other people and become dependent on a source outside of yourself for validation.
“Hang out with people who are living on purpose, who meet their challenges with a step aside, suckers attitude, who are dating super awesome people, making exactly the kind of money they want to be making (or working towards it) or taking the kinds of vacations they, and you, want to be taking, and you’ll not only see what’s possible for you,”
The better our bodies feel, the happier and more productive we are.”
“When you are consistently in a state of gratitude, and aware of all the awesomeness that already exists, it, among many other things, makes it much easier for you to believe that there’s more awesomeness where that came from, and that this yet-to-be-manifested awesomeness is also available to you.
Finding the good and the lessons in things allows us to move through them and on to new experiences. If you wanna stay stuck in the same place and keep getting spanked with the same lessons over and over, be negative, resentful, and victimized. If you want to get over your issues and rock your life, be grateful, look for the good and learn.
When you love yourself enough to stand in your truth no matter what the cost, everyone benefits. You start attracting the kinds of things, people, and opportunities that are in alignment with who you truly are.
“Birthing your dreams is like. . . . giving birth. Conceiving the idea is the fun part (hopefully), then you go through insane amounts of fear and excitement and dreaming and planning and vomiting and growing and thinking you’re crazy and thinking you’re awesome and stretching and shape shifting until you’re practically unrecognizable to everyone, even your own self.
“Finding the good and the lessons in things allows us to move through them and on to new experiences. If you wanna stay stuck in the same place and keep getting spanked with the same lessons over and over, be negative, resentful, and victimized. If you want to get over your issues and rock your life, be grateful, look for the good and learn.”
“Imagine how different your reality would be (and the reality of everyone surrounding you) if you woke up every morning certain of your own lovability and your critically important role on this planet. And if you poo-pooed shame, guilt, self-doubt, and self-loathing and allowed yourself to be, do, and have everything your little heart desired. THAT”
Become one of your own die-hard fans, look at yourself from the outside, where all your self doubts can’t crawl all over you, and behold what shines through. You”
If you want to take control of your life and turn it into something as spectacularly "you" as have the people I described above, stop at nothing. Have faith. Trust that your new life is already here and is far better than the old.
“It’s all about contributing to the world by making life easier, happier, safer, healthier, better, tastier, more beautiful, more fun, more interesting, more thoughtful, more loving—whatever you do, bring something good to the party.”
About the Author
Jen Sincero is a bestselling author, speaker, and success coach who travels around the world to help people transform both their professional and personal lives through her books and teachings.