What does it really take to lead a team?
To author and former Navy SEAL commander Jocko Willink, the answer is this:Extreme ownership.
What does it mean, exactly?
“Implementing Extreme Ownership requires checking your ego and operating with a high degree of humility. Admitting mistakes, taking ownership, and developing a plan to overcome challenges are integral to any successful team.” - Jocko Willink
Who should read this?
Anyone who will take on a leadership role. Whether it’s taking initiative and leading others in personal or professional lives, this book provides aspiring leaders with insight on what it takes to lead.
Extreme Ownership Main Ideas
Summary of Extreme Ownership
When Jocko Willink was serving his time as a Navy SEAL commander, he experienced more than the usual set of challenges than most leaders face.
In a life and death situation, a commander’s attitude can make or break a team.
One of the main points that the book emphasizes is how a leader should always seek out criticism and be ready to accept responsibility when the mission does not go as planned. According to Willink, the majority of teams that under perform during operations are the ones who have leaders who blame basically everybody and everything but themselves.
And by not acknowledging fault and taking extreme ownership of the results, they continuously fail.
It’s scary to go this path according to the author as this finger-pointing attitude will trickle down to subordinates. Passing the buck and not taking full responsibility for their actions and results are surefire ways of killing a team or an organization’s effectiveness to execute its goals.
On the other hand, a leader who takes full ownership and responsibility inspires the subordinates to do the same. The result? A group of individuals capable of solving all sorts of issues and problems through sheer discipline and belief in each other.
Leaders should keep an open mind about what other teams within the organization are doing as they can serve as excellent allies in achieving so much more and doing things more effectively. In a corporate setting, teams should not compete with each other as they are all under one company after all. It’s important to keep the bigger picture in mind, which is the organization succeeding as a whole.
You can deal with pressure by keeping plans simple, clear, and concise. Regardless of setting, a leader should always identify and make an intelligent guess on all the potential risks involved within a given scenario. This helps the team prepare contingencies and easily come up with solutions should issues arise.
SEALs follow this rule: “Relax, look around, make a call”.
It’s a simple reminder that helps keep things in perspective especially when there’s a huge amount of pressure. When things go awry from almost every possible angle, it’s extremely important that a leader remains calm in order to come up with the best possible solution.
SEALs have a term for it: “Prioritize and execute”. It’s an effective mantra that emphasizes logic and clear thinking when bombarded with a ton of problems. By knowing which issues are top priority, a leader can steer the team away from danger and stick to its most important goal.
Decentralizing command and breaking down teams into smaller units is a better strategy. The author shared that during his time as a SEAL commander, they had sub-teams which were made up of only four or five people with one designated leader.
A great leader truly believes and supports the mission---regardless of his or her own personal views. Even when it doesn’t seem to align with his perspective, he should always go back to the main objectives and realize the bigger picture that they are aiming for.
If a leader questions the organization’s decision outright and shares his personal opinions to his team as to why he thinks he disagrees with the mission, he risks dramatically reducing the team’s effectiveness in executing the goal.
My Personal Takeaways
As a leader, you have to take responsibility for each and every failure of your team
Truly understanding the importance of your mission (why you’re doing it in the first place) is essential in achieving its success
Allies are there to support you, they’re not adversaries
Planning and preparation is crucial and mitigates risks
Prioritize and execute
My Favorite Quotes from Extreme Ownership
“A good leader does not get bogged down in the minutia of a tactical problem at the expense of strategic success.”
“A good leader has nothing to prove, but everything to prove.”
“Ego clouds and disrupts everything: the planning process, the ability to take good advice, and the ability to accept constructive criticism. It can even stifle someone’s sense of self-preservation. Often, the most difficult ego to deal with is your own.”
“Although discipline demands control and asceticism, it actually results in freedom. When you have the discipline to get up early, you are rewarded with more free time.”
“The test is not a complex one: when the alarm goes off, do you get up out of bed, or do you lie there in comfort and fall back to sleep? If you have the discipline to get out of bed, you win—you pass the test. If you are mentally weak for that moment and you let that weakness keep you in bed, you fail. Though it seems small, that weakness translates to more significant decisions. But if you exercise discipline, that too translates to more substantial elements of your life.”
“As SEALs, we operate as a team of high-caliber, multi-talented individuals who have been through perhaps the toughest military training and most rigorous screening process anywhere. But in the SEAL program, it is all about the Team. The sum is far greater than the parts.”
“But we can’t ever think we are too good to fail or that our enemies are not capable, deadly, and eager to exploit our weaknesses. We must never get complacent. This is where controlling the ego is most important.”
“But, in fact, discipline is the pathway to freedom.”
“Extreme Ownership. Leaders must own everything in their world. There is no one else to blame.”
“For leaders, the humility to admit and own mistakes and develop a plan to overcome them is essential to success. The best leaders are not driven by ego or personal agendas. They are simply focused on the mission and how best to accomplish it.”
“For this reason, they must believe in the cause for which they are fighting. They must believe in the plan they are asked to execute, and most important, they must believe in and trust the leader they are asked to follow.”
“Implementing Extreme Ownership requires checking your ego and operating with a high degree of humility. Admitting mistakes, taking ownership, and developing a plan to overcome challenges are integral to any successful team.”
“It’s not what you preach, it’s what you tolerate.”
“Leadership is simple, but not easy.”
“More than a decade of continuous war and tough combat operations in Iraq and Afghanistan gave birth to a new generation of leaders in the ranks of America’s fighting forces.”
“On any team, in any organization, all responsibility for success and failure rests with the leader. The leader must own everything in his or her world. There is no one else to blame. The leader must acknowledge mistakes and admit failures, take ownership of them, and develop a plan to win.”
“Our freedom to operate and maneuver had increased substantially through disciplined procedures. Discipline equals freedom.”
“The most fundamental and important truths at the heart of Extreme Ownership: there are no bad teams, only bad leaders.”
“There are no bad units, only bad officers. This captures the essence of what Extreme Ownership is all about.”
“We learned that leadership requires belief in the mission and unyielding perseverance to achieve victory, particularly when doubters question whether victory is even possible.”
“When setting expectations, no matter what has been said or written, if substandard performance is accepted and no one is held accountable—if there are no consequences—that poor performance becomes the new standard.”
“You can’t make people listen to you. You can’t make them execute. That might be a temporary solution for a simple task. But to implement real change, to drive people to accomplish something truly complex or difficult or dangerous—you can’t make people do those things. You have to lead them.”
About the Author(s)
Jocko Willink and Leif Babin are the authors of Extreme Ownership: How U.S Navy SEALS Lead and Win. Willink served as a commander of SEAL Team Three Task Unit Bruiser. Babin is a decorated Navy SEAL officer. Together they founded Echelon Front, a leadership consulting company that helps others build their own high-performance winning teams.